I agree with most of what you're saying there word, but
isn't that was politeness is?Japanese people are not polite. Western cultural perceptions cause us to interpret many of their behaviors as polite, but, in fact, they're just maintaining their culture of "appearances." Many a clueless ALT has long assumed that s/he was well-liked by many folks around them, completely unaware that they were, in fact, receiving the absolute minimum permissible level of societal acceptance by their coworkers. Japanese people are just like anyone else--there are some nice folks, lots of idiots, a few cool
people, and a bunch of assholes.
Even if you think someone is an utter moron you still treat them with respect.
Being polite and being nice are pretty different imo.
Definitely.Life in Japan is not magical fantasy kimono-land. It can be every once and a while, but mostly, life is just mundane and typical--with more kanji, green tea, noodles and such. I think this is the depression that people feel--and I've seen it in quite a few new ALTs. Life in Japan is great--but it's generally not what people expect. They're expecting it to be "special" somehow--and it's not. It's just life. You'll spend the vast majority of your time just doing normal sh*t--working, eating, sleeping, maintaining your household, studying, etc. JET isn't a vacation in awesome anime Japanland; it's a job, like any other, and you'll be living a normal, relatively mundane life, just like you would anywhere else. Yeah, you get to do some cool Japanese sh*t once and a while, but for the most part... it's just like living and working anywhere else.
This is kind of the same of a lot of big life changes really. You finish middle school and look set for high school which will be just like on TV, all those beautiful people and parties and adventures!.....no, its just middle school except now you're a dumb midget rather than the man about town. But university! That will be better! .... no it's just high school except people are drunk all the time and everybody seems either very poor or very rich.
As I said, if life is shit then merely changing your surroundings won't be a cure all.